Goofie: If I hadn't been awake.....

Thank you lurdo, it's good to 'see' you too! ♥

Oh King Goofie you look awsome in that pose I love to see you every day

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To Impie and Anne, with regard to the conversations here between the 3 of us. This is probably the last thing to say because nobody wants to get caught up and perpetuate this grief endlessly. I had the greatest awareness of all time after reading Anne's story. Every problem we ended up with goes back to one thing ....someone's mouth !! Quoting Anne: "I"m not going to be responsible for her mouth and it's impact on my children or myself." It can be the most lethal weapon we possess. Impie, you also alluded to this with your sister. Anne, you actually said it. For me, this has been the greatest hurt and harm. When I was under attack, I was stumbling over my words, never really saying what needed to be said but the attacker was quite well able to exude deadly pain. Stick and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me..... really??
And to Impie, these words will resonate with me forever..."Anyone will go as far as you'll let them!" Thank you both from my heart for sharing and many blessings in your lives. ♥♥♥

Thanks for your story too,Anne.....one can put up with it a long time, but there comes a time when you have to say "no more" and choose for yourself, the point is, you can't please everyone and you certainly mustn't betray yourself by wanting to please others and put yourself second! Anyone will go as far as you'll let them!

Impie, I've read this with extreme interest because I'm in the same predicament. My sister is 14 months younger. She and I are extreme opposites as she's a "party-girl" personality while I'm the loner bookish type. She made my life in High School absolute misery. And she's made sure her mouth remains going without accessing her brain. I also decided that it was "ok" to not be in her social circle or even visiting on holidays because there's a limit to how much humiliation one can endure over a lifetime. Like you, I don't wish her ill, but I'm not going to be responsible for her mouth and it's impact on my children or myself. I suspect it may be more common than we think. Anne

Bobbie, I'm glad I could be of 'help'.

One thing: I never hated my siblings and I never will and I most certainly don't wish anything bad upon them, but I do know there's no law in the world that says you have to like your siblings either! ☺☺☺

Impie yes, your wisdom is truly appreciated. I had mentioned that the last contact with the oldest girl was 3 yrs ago, but it still feels fresh and I think about it almost on a daily basis. Your story of your separation from your sister helped me to realize something. I've been reluctant to accept that it's okay to "let her go." There has been plenty of talk about it within the family of course, but that is different and it's not that I worry about "what people think," it is what I think about myself. I guess that it is a guilty feeling mostly, though I did nothing to warrant guilt. (the shrinks would have a ball with me, huh?) Thank you again Impie, for sharing your story and the way your feel about it now at this stage of life.... I'm not alone in these feelings and will do much better in the future thanks to your input. ♥

Bobbie, as long as the "girls" are in contact with you as parents, they should figure it out by themselves parents best not take side. If they won't figure it between them... so be it!
I never gave up on my parents because of her!
Good luck and don't let it get to you too much!

Impie, Thank you for your kind thoughts about witnessing the girls not seeing eye to eye. Oh yes, I did see it time and again. Many of their conflicts were "unfair" to my mind, but as a mother you hesitate to judge that or show partiality. We tried to teach as things came up, but there were impossibilities that frustrated Bill and me, where we seemed to never get to the teaching. That made me feel inadequate not only about raising kids, but carried over to other aspects of my being. Did you ever try to "work it out" with your sister? That is, try to have a conversation, be diplomatic, so to speak and have it go absolutely no where? I would have this "thing" in my mind that was saying, "this is going back to the time before the time before that was never resolved." Well, I guess this could be an endless conversation about families, and you are right about every family having 'something.' Now at this stage of my life, I feel extremely grateful to be in the kids' lives, as we have left the sad times behind. Here we are, 6 adults and 5 children with no other in-laws until the children would marry. We live within 10 miles of each other and though they have friends and very busy lives, whenever we do get together, it always leaves you wanting more. Thank you again for sharing. ♥

Thank you Bobbie, though I'm sorry that you as a mum have to witness your girls can't often see eye to eye, I certainly know in every family there's 'something'!
My Mum told me that when she was expecting me my sister (5 at the time) said she had 2 brothers already that if this new baby would be a brother again, she'd roll it with the pram and all into a ditch!!! Well I was a sister TG but theoretically she has rolled me in a ditch plenty of times for many years! LOL
Like you said....you don't choose your family! ☺

Wow Impie, thank you for sharing your " sister story." Our 3 girls could share some stories that would make you roll your eyes. I don't know what it is with girls but they can sure be "sneaky and vindictive." It isn't from MY lack of trying though. Even up to this present day, the oldest is 52 yrs old and one would think had grown up, yet it is not a good situation with her 2 younger sisters. Maybe because she has no children, while the other two have 5 between them. Maybe also because 4 are boys. Whenever we get together all the kids enjoy their time very much. Whatever is the problem with the oldest girl, it has been this way from the day I brought the 2nd baby home from the hospital at childbirth. I am at a loss to figure it out or fix it having tried many, many times. Like your sister who "broke up with you," my daughter broke up with me and the rest of the family time and time again over piddly crap. Now the last time was 3 years ago. No contact whatever. Well, I say this, "you can choose your friends, but you don't choose your family." I really understand what you meant by....finally peace! ◔̯◔

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Thank you lurdo. ♥

Thank you for sharing your story Bobbie. Your grandson is standing up for himself making a point in a civilized way and I hope Honeylemon will 'get' it!!!
Me being the youngest of four and having had an older sister know exactly how your grandson will feel. My sister also thought that she -being the first born- had more rights than her younger siblings even as an adult she did!!! I didn't let her have her way (all the time), and this is the main reason why she broke up with me 26 years ago!!! For me this meant....finally peace! ☺

Oh yes Rebecca, but if it did help, I somehow doubt that! ☺☺

Thank you nillie, yes he looks much brighter again! ♥

I'm sorry to hear about your neighbour too, Carrie. We all seem to have one where ever we are on this planted! ☺

Thank you Lynetteoz :-)

Thank you Pammi....although I should be used to it by now, she'll often manage to startle me some way or the other!...
But I stayed put..that will teach her!!! ♥♥♥

Thanks for the link megabella, it's hilarious. I might copy it and show it to her.....although I doubt she'd get the message....LOL

Exactly, megabelle2000

usually not the animal’s fault.....the owners are the ones who need educating...

Animal control has been called by other neighbors and she seems to be watching them more carefully - but they're still out there. They don't appear to be mean dogs just left alone and very barky. Anne

Oh my...that is not good....is there on one you can call? Animal control or police?? That sounds too dangerous to put up with...

Funny, megabelle2000, my son stopped the attempts to come over the fence with the broom in the muzzzle technique....not hard just prickly. They've avoided that part of the wall since thankfully. I still don't feel safe being in my backyard, sadly. Anne

This one is on the subject we have been talking about...too funny today...https://www.jigidi.com/jigsaw-puzzle/64MYDXRD/Yelling-at-a-dog-to-stop-barking-doesn-t-work

That's a very cute pose you have struck there, Goofie. I reckon only very clever kitties could manage that and you are especially brave to still be in your garden after the scare those naughty loud people gave you. ♥♥♥

Gorgeous pic Impie and Goofie is looking nice and healthy :-)

Hi Handsome!

Sorry about those neighbors. Every neighborhood has at least one person or family that spoils it for the rest. We have a fabulous block association and we have parties with all of our wonderful neighbors.

But.......there is one woman who has trash in the front of her house, doesn't take care of her garden, yells at her husband, doesn't take good care of her many pets and finds fault with the rest of us! We just have to grin and bear it. (We do make sure the trash in her front yard is removed occasionally, so as not to detract from the entire block!).

This picture is one of Goofie's best pictures taken lately Impie♥
He is so sweet here...

Giving her "the look" can be very satisfying, hmm, Goofie?

Impie, I have to share this... My 6 yr old grandson was quiet and away in his room for long enough to make my daughter wonder where he was. The next thing she knew he was asking for a sheet of paper and asking her how to spell d-i-s-t-u-r-b. He wrote on the paper "do not disturb" and taped it to his bedroom door. He was gone again for about 10 minutes when she decided to check him out.. he was on his top bunk zoning out with both kitties. When she asked him why the sign, he said that he was trying to make sure honeylemon would not come to take the kitties from him. Aw, so sweet. The thing is, it is likely she would have..becuz little girls aren't always respectful of their younger brothers ◔ ⌣ ◔

What a great picture you are sitting there wuth that royal pose and showing us the great King you are I see that you are recovering fast.

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I'll try my best, Anne....thank you! ♥

I'm with you tisketsmum....I don't see a point in trying to upset the neighbours, but alas other neighbours see that differently....I guess we all know at least one neighbour who (tries to) spoil it for other neighbours!
Yes tisketsmum, thank you ...it went quiet again so I had a lie down on the path as well!
https://www.jigidi.com/created.php?id=GPV4462Z
hugs, Goofie xx

Ah, yes, not as sad. He's been looking a bit sad for a couple weeks but now he seems to be gaining back his personality. That's a good thing, Goofie, keep it up! Anne

Yes Atsutsa my friend, she is very loudly....if you'd hear her 'walk' their stairs (next to our stairs with a concrete wall between them!!!) it's a miracle she never had a visit from Dutch Animal Welfare as you'd swear she keeps a herd of elephants in her home!!! ☺☺
Misty's humans also keep 3 big dogs and one of them must have very good hearing ☺as he will respond (in a hysterical kind of way) to any noise he hears. Then Misty's mum will shout at him to SHUT UUUUUP!!!!....I think I'd prefer the short barking sounds the dog makes over the shouting of his mum! Goofie xx

Thank you Anne, he looks good today (not as sad as yesterday☺) and he enjoyed his few patrols too! ☺

I sometimes wonder megabelle....but she's just loud in almost everything she does. Whilst she's vacuuming the house, I sometimes wonder when will she come through our walls! ☺☺
Thanks for the compliments on Goofie's portrait....you noticed his tail over the edging, what you don't see in the picture...he sat with his hind paws against the edging and with his front paws ON the edging....so sweet! ♥

You've got a point there Bobbie....I often hear her talk in the garden that's how I know she thinks she's very smart and she has a big mouth too! After a stunt she pulled on us years ago I gave her the silent treatment from then on....I know she hates it! LOL

Aw, thank you luckybie, we are lucky cuz we have cement brick walled in backyards, so at least I'm pretty safe for now. Atsutsa.

It's difficult to understand why people behave like this, we all have to share this planet after all. Perhaps it reinforces my belief that humans are becoming increasingly selfish (except Jigidi pals of course) whether it's being poor neighbours, bad behaviour on the road, or shoving in the supermarket. I hope peace has returned now Goofie. xx

Goofie Dear, thank goodness you look like you have sufficiently recovered enough to handle the on-going nerve of stupid, inconsiderate neighbors. Everybody in the whole world knows that kitties like things gentle, quiet and sweet. It boggles the mind that people are so darned determined to make alot of noise. I wonder if they doubt their own existence and so making noise proves that they are alive!!

And Atsutsa, my heart goes out to you Honey because we know, the bigger the dog, the louder they bark. We had a neighbor several yrs ago who let their big doberman run loose in the neighborhood. It spotted my kitty who was on the ground by me. The dog ran around me twice chasing kitty. I was in a panic screaming. Fortunately there was a tree right next to us, but in his haste up the tree, he ripped out a claw on his hind foot. (Bill had to climb a ladder to get get him down which bled all over his shirt.) When the dog ran at us, my neighbor was standing there waiting for his dog to come back... when he did, he just went into the house with his darn dog. That made me wonder if my neighbor was crazy or just stupid. Oh Dear, this is Sunday, a day of peace and love, I apologize to all Jigidi people who read this, but thank you for letting me vent. ٩◔̯◔۶

maybe your neighbor is deaf and doesn’t realize.....I am always surprised when I have my hearing aids on just how noisy we are!!! Not fun for either party! This is a fabulous portrait of Goofie....I love it...he is so regal and I love how his wonderful tail is up and over the edging...

Loudly, ey? Some neighbors are just "interesting" in a weird sort of way. I have a new one who parked her two big dogs in her backyard for their 24/7 existence - barking whenever and for what ever reason. Very bothersome. Your friend, Atsutsa

Impie, this is a wonderful picture of Goofie looking so regal and all. Anne

One wonders Mrs soo. Like I told the other day, especially she is very noisy. When she came downstairs after she 'shut' the window she also banged the garden door against their fence which did make me jump and puff up my tail a little! ☺
I didn't eat much yesterday but I made up for it this morning! I ate almost all my biscuits and after Mum had a shower and blow dried her hair (I was waiting and it seemed like it took forever☺) I got my F.I.S.H. so my tummy was nice and full after which I slept (F.I.S.H.-coma) until 2 pm then I came downstairs for my medicines and did my patrols.
I'm again having a nap right now! ☺☺ hugs, Goofie ♥♥

Hope it didn't make you jump Goofie. Why do people have to be so noisy? Sometimes when I'm in the back garden someone will put rubbish in their wheelie bin and let the lid close from a height, that always makes me jump. Your garden is looking good, very lush. Hope you enjoyed your patrol and F.I.S.H. ♥♥