Yes indeed she was! We enjoyed thinking about how happy she would be for the boys!! Just Dad and I watched it together, and it was sweet.
You'll appreciate this: he is a coach at heart, coached little league for many years (a serious knee injury ended his playing time in high school). He tends to be quick to point out the players' mistakes, and Mom would always be after him about that, telling him they were doing their best: she always saw the best in everyone! Mom's positive perspective on people was a big part of who she was! The pastor even mentioned to Dad during Mom's service that he would probably think twice from now on during games about criticizing - and lo and behold the boys played essentially a perfect game! A couple times early in the game, Dad thought about being critical, then quickly corrected himself, and after that their play was just a work of art! :-)))
Kate, as you say, it will be difficult getting used to that space that should be filled by your Mom. But you have many good memories to get you through those tough times. You really do need to look after yourself now. I think that getting back to work will be good for you. Enjoy the game cos that's what your Mom would want you to do. You will need to cheer for the two of you now! Jxx
Oh Katy dear,,I have been worried about you. I am so sorry for your loss :(( Huge (((huggsss))). I am so glad you had time with your Mom before hand. Those are such special times and so needed. Take your time and things will go along. Your friend ducky.
Thank you so much, John. Tomorrow is Bama's semi-final game in the college football playoff. It will be sad to watch it without Mom; in recent years, her ability to be up and about during games, cooking, serving snacks, being the supreme hostess, had declined. So she sat and watched more of the actual games with Dad, and recently with me too. She was adorable in her devotion to the players, and we will think of her as each play unfolds. I am taking it slow this week; still getting things done but watching my stress and anxiety level. Next week I'll get back to work. Sigh......
Oh, Kate, I was worried that something bad had happened. :-(( I know that you are a strong person even though you might not feel that at the moment. I'm glad that you had that "special time" with your Mom. You know we're here if you want a shoulder.............. Look after yourself, dear Kate.
John and Skippy, thank you for all the good thoughts which I know have been coming my way. It is hard to say this, but Mom passed away last week - on the 23rd. My last post was early in the day on December 3rd, where I said we hoped she could avoid another hospitalization. Instead, we had to call 911 that afternoon and we almost lost her that day. She came home with Hospice on the 17th and we had 6 special days with her. It does not seem real yet. Everything changed so fast every day; I didn't get much sleep, couldn't work, greatly aggravated my surgically-repaired knee.... It feels like it will take a while to recover. But I stayed so busy: it really hasn't hit me that Mom is actually gone.
I find it amazing that you just posted this jig today, John - this is the first moment I've had a chance to come back to Jigidi. Still haven't been to Facebook, where our family has received hundreds of comments.
Thank you both again for your friendship. Hopefully I will gradually get back to myself.
1 account; or 2 if you have a creative need for a second account - but this requires transparency in your profile descriptions that you hold both accounts. To trust each other and interact with our shoulders down and hearts soft, we all must know with whom we are communicating.
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